by Adele Tilley
Hi, my name is Adele. I’ve been asked to write this blog as I have overcome the challenge of returning to education later in life and drastically improving my life as a result.
I want to highlight why education, for women especially, can be a vital tool for achievement and success.
It’s always going to be easier to make excuses; “the children need me”, “my partner will always be there to support us”, “I’m happy with a simple life”, but you always need to think about the “what if”.
Do you have the right skills to support yourself, if needs be? Do you have the right skills to change your circumstances if you want or need to?
I didn’t, so I thought I was stuck with a violent and abusive man until education gave me the confidence and determination to change my life forever, and I haven’t looked back since! I was weakened by him and knowing what I know now, I wish I had left much earlier than I did.
By making those excuses you are denying yourself more personal freedom, satisfaction and respect. For so long, I put up with much less than I deserved. I didn’t have to but I was scared of the unknown. If you feel you are in a situation like I was, please believe you deserve better! And if you really want it you can create a better life.
Sacrifices need to be made; they just need to be the right ones. I have made several sacrifices over the 6 years since I returned to education. At times, it has been really hard juggling motherhood, education and carving out a decent life for us all, but all of my struggles have paid off and I have been able to achieve more than I have ever imagined – just by letting go of the fears I had.
I let go of my old negative social circle and, at first, I felt really lonely. It wasn’t until later down the line that I realised what a huge impact my so called friend’s negativity was having on my life. Luckily I have now replaced them with happy, successful people and this has made such a dramatic difference to how I feel about myself and what I want out of life. Don’t ever let anybody’s negativity deter your dreams and ambitions!
So, over the last 6 years I have left an abusive man and I’m now recently engaged to the loveliest man I have ever met. I had no qualifications and now I’ve nearly finished my master’s degree. I had no idea what I wanted to do in life and I now have a business ready for growth when I finish university in May. If I had not made the initial sacrifices, I would not have any of this or be writing this blog!
Good luck on your journey and remember – many things that are worth doing are not easy and many things that are easy are not worth doing! Go for it – what do you have to lose? In fact, maybe you have more to gain?